I MOVED!!!

Hi there! As you may have noticed, last month I did not do a monthly post. Don’t worry everything is (mostly) fine. The reason was that I officially moved! I didn’t move far or out of the country I just transferred from an apartment to a house. And no, I am not a homeowner as I still live with part of my family which I will explain later. Life moves pretty fast that it can change in an instant. Therefore, the end of last month leading into this month was pretty stressful because I was busy moving. I am sure many of you know that moving from one place to another is very hectic and chaotic. I had a lot feelings about moving as this was in the plans for a while. I am being open in this post as to what led up to moving and will give an update on how I am currently doing.

      So, my parents were already set on selling the apartment I used to live in for most of my entire life. To be honest I felt comfortable living in my apartment. I did not have to worry about neighbors as much, there was reliable security, and no yard to take care of. However, due to the rising costs in housing, that is when my parents decided to start selling the apartment. It was put up on the market last year, but so far no one has offered to buy the place due to the housing market being so expensive where I currently live. There was one couple who decided to buy the apartment at first, but they ended up backing out of the offer due to unforeseen circumstances. As of today, the apartment still has not been sold even though I have moved. We even had to change realtors after the original offer was backed out of.

As for where I moved to, well this is where it gets pretty complicated. So, my grandma on my mom’s side passed away 5 years ago, and left the house in her name. Therefore, she now owns the property, and she was set on moving back there. Initially, I thought all of my family was going to live there. Unfortunately, shortly after my other grandma (on my dad’s side) passed away last year, my dad filed for divorce from my mom. It was pretty shocking to say the least, and when my dad announced it to my mom, well it didn’t go so well and things turned pretty messy when my brother intervened in the fight. I know my relationship with my dad hasn’t been great, but I could already tell that he didn’t have a great one with my mom either. After he told us the divorce, he gradually started moving his things out of the apartment to his new place which is located in a pretty sketchy area (that I don’t even want to visit!). Then at the beginning of this year, he lived in his new place full time. Sometimes he would come to the apartment if he needed something. I don’t think he is going to visit our new place at all. Yeah, I am still not comfortable talking about the divorce aspect because I never thought my dad would do something like this. It is as if my entire childhood into young adulthood now means nothing since he is mainly out of our lives. He doesn’t even invite us to his family events like Thanksgiving, (I am actually okay with this because these types of social gatherings always stressed me out recently). But I think it is the best for him and me personally, and I am not going to get involved with this divorce. Also, it is common for a lot of parents to divorce, but not when their kids are adult age. I also leaked out this information in one of my holiday posts last year in case anyone noticed.

When our realtor announced our move date, it was a bit of a last-minute notice because my dad apparently rushed them so the apartment could be sold since it had taken so long. However, when the moving date is announced a week before that is when things start to get stressful. The most problematic thing about moving is going through all my crap and organizing it to either be donated or packed in boxes. I mean we all gradually started moving stuff into the house before the date was announced, but I still had a lot of stuff to go through after that. It is especially more stressful for me since I am still working at my current job. Based on work policy, I am supposed to request time off at least two weeks in advance, but sadly I wasn’t able to since one, it was a last-minute notice and two my boss was currently on vacation at the time. Therefore, I called in work the day we had to move and tell them it was a “family emergency” which technically is one. They didn’t really care as much since it isn’t tax season, so nothing much was going on. Fortunately, we also had movers to move all the furniture, and they did an efficient job moving everything out of our apartment, and placing it in our new house.

Back to the new place I am currently living in, technically it is not new since it was previously owned by my grandma. Therefore, the house is very old since my grandma and her family lived in it for many years. Prior to moving it was in pretty bad condition but luckily my mom did lots of renovations such as the floors, bathroom, and the interior of the walls so it doesn’t look as scary living in it. Unfortunately, there is still some work to be done to the house. For instance, there kitchen is the only big area of the house that won’t be renovated for a while, but some of the appliances seem to be working. There is also no AC in the house whatsoever which is crucial since it is very humid where I live. I try to manage by using a lot of fans and I do have a portable AC unit that I can plug in, and fill up with water but it only works if I am directly in front of it. I could try open the windows, but they are not the best quality and leaving them open will cause all the dirt to fly in. The reason the rest of these improvements aren’t happening right away is because of the costs, and my mom is hoping to do it after the apartment sells. Therefore, it is a bit of a downgrade compared to where I was living before, but it could’ve been a lot worse. Throwing out trash is also complicated because unlike our apartment where we could just throw it down a chute, our house has our own bin, but it can’t be taken out until Monday morning. Plus, it has to be hauled out by ourselves. The biggest concern about living in a house is that now I have to deal with neighbors, and I know there are some horror stories about dealing with them. So far, I have barely seen any of our neighbors, which is great because as an introvert, I would have high anxiety if I ran into them. On the positive, my new bedroom is much bigger so I have more room to store my stuff, and it even has two closets. It is also closer to where I work, and yes, I am still at my current job almost going to be hitting one year. Don’t worry, I will be sure to update you all on my current job.

For those of you who are wondering how I am doing with all of this happening, I would say honestly, I am doing okay. At first, I was against the idea of moving from my apartment because I have gotten accustomed to living there almost my entire life that it grew to be my safe space (well mainly my old bedroom). It has gotten more complicated now that my parents are divorced, and my dad will not do anything to help bring improvements to our house. It was very stressful when I had to pack up my stuff and move it, but I was able to manage since I organized it in a way it doesn’t get lost. However, I haven’t completely unpacked all my stuff as some of it is still in boxes and duffle bags. I wish things were a bit different with this situation, but I am grateful that most of my new place has been renovated and that I am not homeless. I remember moving when I was very little and I didn’t mind moving into my new apartment, but now this time is different due to many aspects like finances and family. Hopefully once the apartment gets sold, my mom will get enough funds to renovate the rest of the house. I know many of you are also thinking why I don’t find my own place to live, well as I mentioned before the housing market where I live is unaffordable. Plus, I still have my student loans to pay off and speaking of which, stick around to the end of this post for a little announcement. I also don’t have a driver’s license and my own car, yet (sorry for revealing too much, but it is okay to be vulnerable sometimes). What can I say, my life is a complete mess but I just got to push through it so I can enjoy the amazing things to come after. I mean you see many of posts where I share updates on my career life, and it isn’t perfect, but I can still move on from it by sharing my voice through these blog posts which is why I created this blog. If you are reading this and your life is messed up like mine, then welcome to the club. You will get through whatever is going on.

Now for a little announcement. As I mentioned I still have student loan debt from college. I was holding on paying it due to the pandemic and the recent forbearance. I still don’t have a payment due anytime soon, but interest has started to accrue again. I have started paying them off frequently but I still have a long way to go. NOTE: I AM NOT ASKING FOR MONEY HERE!! I was inspired by this content creator named Mikey Caloca (@mikeycaloca) who also had student loan debt, but in 110 days he was able to pay it ALL off based on engagements from his followers on social media accounts using different challenges each day. Now he is doing a similar challenge where he is saving up for a new home. I watched all of his student loan debt series, and if he could do, I could do it as well. Now to be honest, I don’t get a lot of views on this blog, but I am working so hard trying to. If you haven’t already, go follow @pressure.shock on Instagram and check out my TS-12 inspired post. I am going to try something here: for every view on this post, like and comment on the upcoming IG post, I will contribute 25 cents each to my student loans. The Instagram post I am referring to will have an image of the cover photo for this blog. Again, this is not a monetized blog, so please don’t send me any money. I am doing this based on engagement of the public. Also please be nice when viewing this blog if this is your first time seeing this. As for future blog posts, stick around because I do have a couple of ideas I want to do as posts, so be FEARLESS and follow along.